Your wedding is one of the most significant days of your life. It is also likely one of the few “rites of passage” you will celebrate, particularly given the erosion of shared ritual in our contemporary American society.
Because I listen closely. I am actually interested in you, and your partner, and the future of your coupledom. And I will use that listening to craft a perfect ceremony for you.
I have logged thousands of hours delivering speeches, facilitating workshops, and gently leading meetings. I am a poised, tone-perfect public speaker.
I am intelligent, well-read across spiritual traditions, and received my academic education at Harvard, and it will show in the research and care I give to your ceremony.
I know what it’s like to be in love, and to be a modern person with no deep religious roots who still wants a beautiful wedding.
What Is the Process?
You will never get the same wedding as someone else. I guarantee your ceremony and my comments will be original. You get:
- An initial “intake interview”
- Insightful “homework” to work on separately and together
- A series of 3-4 coaching meetings or phone calls, to talk about the homework and the ceremony
- Brainstormed ideas for readings, rituals, and vows
- A draft ceremony plan for your feedback (and shared work on something like Google Docs if you like)
- An inspired, personalized, beautiful ceremony
I draw on an array of traditions in helping you design your wedding. Personally, I grew up in a Jewish family, but my spiritual inclinations are Buddhist. Teachers and writings that I often bring into my wedding work include (but are definitely not limited to):
- Albert Einstein
- Annie Dillard
- Bible (Old and New Testaments)
- Dalai Lama
- Dhammapada (sayings of the Buddha)
- Kahlil Gibran
- Mary Oliver
- Pema Chodron
- Thich Nhat Hanh
- William Butler Yeats
How Can You Do My Wedding?
Most states (and counties and towns within them) now have straightforward and easy rules about wedding officiating.
Typically, I utilized my Minister status with the Universal Life Church to conduct your wedding as clergy. (See here for a map of wedding rules) . If that doesn’t work for you, there is usually a provision for a one-day civil officiant status for friends and family. If this implies additional paperwork, costs, or travel, I will have to ask you to manage the process.
Please check with your County Clerk about the local regulations.
My basic cost for all the preliminary work, development of your customized ceremony, and day-of-officiating is $1000. That can vary depending on the process we jointly decide on. If I have to travel father than 100 miles or stay overnight, that’s on you.